Posted by PilotAdmin on March 27, 2016
Not only is it not creative, what does it mean? It’s good you’re trying to initiate a conversation, but what do you think a person’s response to a “Hey” message is going to be if they don’t know you? This obviously isn’t a good way to start off a conversation. If you chose to initiate a conversation, there’s a reason why. Something got you excited enough to want to talk to that person. Show some of that excitement. Show some personality. If you want to get something out of them, then you have to be willing to give a little more than just “Hey.”
You are still a stranger to them. They may need more time to get a feel for who you are first before they’re comfortable going on a date with you. So don’t take that as a sign they’re not interested. In fact, if they’re talking to you, and trying to find out more about you, then they may be more interested than you think.
We’re all busy, and that’s understandable. But nothing is more frustrating than talking to someone you thought you were clicking with and then suddenly, poof, they’re gone. If you’re too busy to talk at the moment, just say that you’re busy and will get back to them later. (And then actually get back to them later.) The person you’re talking to will understand. Sometimes you see a text and forget to respond. And suddenly it’s a week later and you think it’s too late or too awkward to text back. It’s not. Just apologize and carry on. But going ghost is unacceptable. Now, if you’re truly not interested, just be honest. It’s far better for everyone involved. And at least this way that person won’t have any long-lasting resentful feelings towards you.
If you’re one of those people who wants to wait for the “perfect” time to ask a person out, that “perfect” time doesn’t exist. Don’t over think it. Everyone wants to make the best first impression, but you don’t want to wait so long that you miss your window of opportunity. If you want to ask them out, just ask them out.
While this is your moment to impress, they also have to be there. Don’t just set up a date without letting them have some type of say in it. Think of it this way, they have to spend at least one to two hours of their time with you. If it’s something they has no interest in, then they just wasted their time and your chances of a second date have dramatically fallen.
You don’t want to pick a place that’s so far for them to get to it’s a chore. However, if that place is the only option, be considerate. If you have a car and they don’t, offer them a ride. Or suggest an earlier time so they’re not driving home late or worse stranded at the train station or a bus stop. But also, don’t suggest a place that you’re unfamiliar with. It may be equidistant to your locations, but if you’ve never been there before, there’s a chance you could get lost and arrive late. And arriving late never looks good, regardless of the situation. Remember, talk to your date and get their input. Don’t just make assumptions.
We love movies! It’s inexpensive and you get to watch something both you and your date will like. However, you have spend up to 2 hours not talking. Make sure to plan a pre- or post-movie meet. Maybe grab coffee beforehand so you can talk a little. Or get ice cream afterwards and discuss how great the flick was. You want to offer an opportunity for that person to get to know you and vice versa.
Life is unpredictable, and things just come up. So canceling on someone isn’t a biggie. But failing to follow-up when you cancelled, that’s a no-no. Preferably you should have an alternate date and/or time when you cancel. But if you don’t want to commit to anything just then (for fear of having to cancel again) just say you will follow-up with them within the next couple of days. It’s not only the polite thing to do, but it shows you’re actually interested.
This is important! Dating can be complicated. And involves some work. But overall, it should be fun. Don’t stress. Just remember it’s all about enjoying the other person’s company. Take it from there, and you’ll be sure to have a good time.
What are some tips or advice you have? Please feel free to share or comment your thoughts. As always, thanks for reading!
-The Pilot Team
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